The father wound

As young men we look to our father for guidance, encouragement and even acceptance.  What happens in our life if we don’t get those things from our father?  Do we become the scum of the earth?  Because our father failed to give us what our little boy soul needed we now travel from town to town, living on the street and hardly eating.  Not the case but there are those times when we were growing up and we remember being wounded.

Is there a specific time in your life you can remember needed affirmation and it didn’t come?  Are your parents divorced?  Did your father give you the silent treatment?  Maybe you never did anything bad but he didn’t express his pride and love for the good you did do.

Now what?  You have spent the time getting to know yourself and that you do have some areas of your life with a wound.  Will being a Christian Catholic solve all your problems?

If you haven’t thought about and talked about the wounds in your life you may be hiding them, “posing”.  It could be working all the time or it might be sinking into the couch every night to avoid dealing with other people.

We have all heard the conversations where a man says he is not going to be a parent like his father was.  He is better than that and will help his children more than his father did.

What situations in your life do you not let anyone into?  Is it work, home, a sports team?  Where do you feel the most emotion, positive or negative?  My guess that there is where the father wound lies.